is the motivation in your intent or in her interpretation?
Well, good point. I guess Aviva is the ultimate arbiter of whether or not I am motivating. Although partly there is a linguistic issue (adjective vs. gerundive?). Had she said "stop being so motivating", the case would be clear...
Could you stop motivating even if you wanted to and could you want to even if you could stop motivating?
Wait a minute, are you motivating me to stop motivating?